Etiquette for Modern Girls
In the 1950’s, when dinosaurs roamed the earth, stuffy women in floral blouses regularly churned out publications listing frumpy advice on “how women should behave”. Behavioural recommendations like: never share your doubts with your other half – be sweet and accommodating at all times, don’t drink any alcohol other than a flute of champers at a wedding, and stop kissing tramps for a swig of cider/urine (you know who you are).
Obviously it’s completely ridiculous that anything like that ever existed and thank GOD for feminism, Germaine Greer embarrassing herself on Big Brother, and Mums that let their daughters smoke crack in their bedrooms and stay out till 4 when they’re six years old. Or whatever it is that makes Jeremy Kyle shout things like, “Someone think of the children” and, “We’re going to lynch you in a steaming pile of Primark for being a bad dad“ etc. That said, maybe it would be helpful to have a guide for ladies in the Noughties? Could call it ‘Don’t be Naughty in the Noughties’.
I tried for about an hour to come up with a better title than that one. NEWSFLASH: THERE ISN’T ONE
WORDS: Elizabeth Sankey
DON’T MESS AROUND WITH YOUR FRIEND’S EX. EVER.
I don’t care if you’re absolutely positive, with no doubt in your mind, cross your heart and hope to die certain that you’re going to marry him. Die alone. Die alone in a tear-stained wedding dress, staring at his photo, breathlessly whimpering, “I will survive” off-key as you wait for the chalky overdose to do it’s work. There are about 8 hundred trillion men in the world, and I have it on good authority that they all want to be with you – yeah I can show you the tally charts if you like, but can’t you just trust me FOR ONCE IN YOUR FREAKING ASS LIFE? So there’s really no need to get all Romeo and Juliet, “we can’t be together, this is so hard” about your friend’s sloppy seconds. And this isn’t dependent on how long they went out, or who broke up with who, or how hot he looks when he’s whining that he wants to be with you but just can’t. Just don’t go there.
TREAT WORK ROMANCES WITH CARE
Sometimes work life can bone-achingly, soul-crushingly dull. Even just getting out of bed requires a huffing strength of body and mind, grabbing your phone with a crazed look in your eye when the twinkly twangly alarm tone goes off. I bet when your phone arrived in it’s nice little box you spent ages choosing an alarm that was nice and relaxing, “this is so sweet I’ll probably even enjoy getting up to it!” Yeah right, in reality it’s become the sound of doom, causing uncontrollable shudders of pain when you hear it playing on someone else’s phone, “How can you stand to have the charm bells of Satan as your ring tone?” So obviously it makes everything ooze along a little bit better when someone exciting slinks into your domain of work. To your eyes desperate for distraction they look like pre-hamburger Elvis in plaid, but be wary. Outside your walls of personal 9 to 5 pain they’re probably more like Nick Griffin in a dress, and quickly you’ll realise those jokes they were making weren’t wittily ironic, they were just racist. And what’s worse – THEY WEREN’T EVEN FUNNY.
CRY IN MODERATION
Tears are the best. A well timed eye wash can get you out of some sticky situations, mainly because crying girls intimidate everyone – sobs equal maybe mental, which equals throwing things, which equals broken stuff all over your bedroom. However, be wary with your gift little one, because pretty soon snotty juttery breathing becomes old news, and no longer will you be looked at with sympathy and understanding. Instead everyone will sigh and walk off, and all you’ll be left with is mascara on your hands and a Blair-Witch-drippy nose. God how scary was Blair Witch? Just remembering that last scene with the man standing against the wall, kid’s hand prints everywhere, is enough to make me tear up all over my QWERTY. And that would be OK, because I’m not trying to get out of acting like a idiot, or making my Mum buy me a pony. I’ll save that for later.
OH GOD and the bloody thumb in the scrap of material outside the tent!!!
Stick up for stuff. For people, objects, and funny quotations in books you agree with. I’m not saying write Female Eunuch, more if you read Female Eunuch and think it’s utter bollocks, stick with that. Even if some pretentious boy with a feminist agenda when it comes to getting girls tells you it’s well profound and jokes. And although I think girls should always be bitches, because it’s so fucking fun, maybe don’t do it too much. I know you probably all know this stuff anyway and are skimming over this last paragraph with a yawn, so just enjoy that smug satisfaction of knowing you’re more Ghost World than Mean Girls (love you forever Lindsay).